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Nobodys Got It Sorted Nobodys Got It

worked out one of my friends who’s a millionaire and spends time with billionaires told me it’s idiots all the way up you can go as high as you want in any organization in any political party in any group in the entire world. The people at the top they don’t have an idea about what they’re doing either it is idiots all the way up what’s happening people welcome back to the show. It is the end of 2022 and I thought it would be just right for me to do a Roundup of some of my favorite lessons and insights that I’ve learned from the podcast and the newsletter and life in general over the last year the last 12 months has been particularly insane a year ago. I wasn’t Living in America. I didn’t have a visa to even be.

Here And The Show Was A Quarter

to a fifth of the size that it is now so the last 150 episodes and 100 million plays or whatever it is. I’ve learned some interesting and cool stuff and I figured that it would be a nice way for me to round out my Year’s learnings and then maybe remind you of some stuff that you’ve forgotten or perhaps tell you about some things that you missed so thank you for all of your support. Over the last 12 months I really really do appreciate it. It’s been the craziest ride and I can’t wait to see what next year has got in store but let’s get into it First up Rogan’s value difficulty conflation so I did Rogan in August time and he had this little exchange that I kind of missed at the time and then I went back. and listened to the episode and it was so good.

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He Said Look At The Car.

He’s driving look at the watch He’s wearing look at the girl. He’s with that’s unattainable to many people. So it seems like it’s valuable but then you attained it and then you realized Oh. This is not valuable.

This Is Just Difficult To Get And

there’s a difference. There’s a big difference. What’s valuable is something that fulfills you intellectually, emotionally, spiritually and lovingly, so what I learned from this was most smart people realize that there is value in stepping outside of their comfort zone and doing something that’s difficult. We’re told that worthwhile things are difficult to attain because if they weren’t difficult to attain, they probably wouldn’t be worthwhile because everybody could attain them. But this is how non–valuable, but difficult things get slipped into our desires without us noticing.

Something Worthwhile Is Often Going To Be Difficult,

but just because it’s difficult doesn’t mean that it’s worthwhile so we use the difficulty or the challenge of attaining something as a proxy for the value that it has it just helped me remember that taking your desires from other people that sort of mimetic thing where you see somebody else who has gone through an awful lot to try and achieve a particular goal. You think wow that’s something that’s super worthwhile it’s like well what if you don’t care about having a big house or a flash Rolex or a new car? What if you don’t care about the net worth of the people who you’re friends with or about whether you’ve got the most followers on Instagram just because it’s hard for somebody to achieve that thing does not mean that it is worthwhile and it’s that confusion. of the two that really made a lot of sense and this was Rogan responding to kind of my early years. I suppose through my twenties where I’d done something that everybody else presumed. I I thought was going to be worthwhile, because everybody else held it in high esteem so yeah that was um that was a really interesting little insight from him and then I came up with the name.

So Rogans Value Difficulty Conflation There Will Be

a lot of bro signs today that is like a warning. There should be a little bro science alarm counter up there all right next one Jordan Peterson. So this is from the first episode that I did with him nearly two years ago. Now so this is start of 2021 and I totally missed it when he said it and someone reposted a clip and it just reminded me. How good this little section is so contemplate the price you pay for an action you’re already in a little hell you know perfectly well.

Its Going To Get Worse The Thing

about inaction is they are blind to it do not make the assumption that inaction has no price. So this is really really interesting like if you’re stuck with a difficult decision. It can be very easy to push it off right so a change of job or an awkward conversation or finally approaching somebody that you fancy or something like that. In these situations it’s easy to assume that doing nothing is the same as an impartial strategy. Right if you do not do a thing, you’re not moving the situation forward and or back, but doing nothing is still doing something and Gwynda Bogle says a problem postponed is a problem extended so this anxiety cost.

Thing Which I Spoke To Peterson

about continues to stack up as you spend more and more hours thinking about the undone task or objective or whatever it is that you still haven’t gone to go and do as you thought Loop your way through not moving forward in the real world and just vacillating about it inside of your own mind you end up in purgatory right it’s this liminal space and nothing is actually being gained here so sometimes you need to carefully consider more options and get more information. But Alex Homozy said on the episode I did with him it doesn’t take time to make decisions. It takes information to make decisions. If you have the information to make the decision you should make it a lot of people belabor a decision because they’re not gaining more information to make it time is not a requirement. For decision making information is if you have the information to support that this is a good or bad decision and you still have fear.

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Then This Is The Fear Of The Unknown

or hypothetical which is not knowable We don’t know what is going to happen, but we have evidence that would support this decision that makes sense. If we still don’t want to make it. Then that is not logical. So you have to contemplate the price that you pay for in action and a lot of the time what you’re waiting for is not actually contributing to you being able to make the decision any more easily. If postponing a problem extends it and if there is a price that you pay for an action and if time doesn’t help you make decisions information does and you are not getting more information as you wait all that.

Youre Doing Is Postponing That Problem And You

are not not making a decision. You are continuing to push that out so you know any large decision any difficult decision that you feel like I don’t know you just you’re not sure whether or not you’re going to pull the pin on this thing so you sit back and you wait you wait and you wait and time just continues to pass and you presume that this is a an impartial independent strategy that’s not the case that’s not the way that this works unfortunately and um it’s a nice reminder of the urgency of um doing anything. I think you know. Parkinson’s law of work expands to fill the time given for it if you are if you have no deadline for the decision that you’re going to make you’re just going to continue pushing it off and off. And off and reminding yourself that there is a price that you pay for inaction is a nice way to kind of add a little bit of urgency into everything you do next up Roy Baumeister, so Roy was like pretty base.

It Was Like Roy Based Meister Um

when he came on. I was very very impressed with him and he wrote this great book about sex like sociosexuality. He came on and we had a great conversation about it. He has this like really really interesting take about the relationship between women’s demands of men and what men will do in order to get laid so he said men will do what women demand of them in order to get laid women set the standards for sex and Men meet them. Although this may be considered an unflattering characterization.

We Have Found No Evidence To Contradict

the basic. General principle that men will do whatever is required in order to obtain sex, and perhaps not a great deal More one of us characterized this in a previous work as if women would stop sleeping with jerks, Men would stop being jerks. If in order to obtain sex, men must become pillars of the community or lie or amass riches by fair means or foul or be romantic or funny. Then many men will do precisely that if men need to simply be in the right place at the right time at 3am in a nightclub, then they will meet these standards appropriately. Women are not at fault for listlessness in men, but they’re not totally unrelated to it either.

This Went Down Quite Badly On Instagram, As

you might be able to imagine. But I think that there’s a lot of Truth in this it is not men. Who set these standards and criteria that they have to meet for sex right women are The Gatekeepers to sex fundamentally in men are the protagonists. Sometimes this is reversed.

Im Not Sure If Its Quite

still the same situation where women are The Gatekeepers to sex and Men Are The Gatekeepers to relationships. I think that that Dynamic is moving at least a little bit but for the most part like it’s the woman that says yes or no about who she is or is not going to go to bed with and having a situation where um lower a lower price that is being demanded of men in order for them to achieve sex. You know take it back 200 years the year that Darwin was born. I think it’s like 1830 or something like that.

The Average Number Of People Registering

for divorce in the UK was. four per year that’s not 100 that’s not a thousand that’s four four people per year. We’re registering for divorce in the UK in the mid–1800s. That means that the price that you need to pay in order to get divorced is significantly higher divorce was much rarer.

Also If The Price That You Need

to pay in order to be able to get access to sex is that you need to court a woman for a good while and speak to her father. Like think about why it is that the asking the father for the daughter’s hand in marriage thing was even there I guess that there’ll be some like interesting cultural reason for it, but also you could think about it from a just social psychology perspective. It is presumably one of the most difficult disagreeable people in This Woman’s entire life and the guy is going.

Summary

It is the end of 2022 and I thought it would be just right for me to do a Roundup of some of my favorite lessons and insights that I’ve learned from the podcast and the newsletter and life in general over the last year . The last 12 months has been particularly insane a year ago. I wasn’t Living in America.& I didn’t have a visa to even be.& Here and the show was a quarter to a fifth of the size that it is now so the last 150 episodes and 100 million plays or whatever it is.& The people at the top they don’t have an idea about what they’re doing either it is idiots all the way up what’s happening people welcome back to the show. I can’t wait to see what next year has got in store but let’s get into it but it’s been the craziest ride and I can’t wait for all of your support. I’ve learned some interesting and cool stuff and I figured that it would…. Click here to read more and watch the full video