All The Big Mistakes Women Make Chrissie Mayr Modern Wisdom Podcast 303

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I Undervalued Communication And I Undervalued Me

liking the guy It was always like am I good enough am I hot enough am I competing amongst these other women instead of flipping it to like is this guy good enough Does he even have a job. You know he was late Chrissy may welcome to the show thanks for having me have you managed to get dog Poo off your shoe yeah you know it’s starting to be springtime here in New York and part of that means going around the yard and picking up poops and throwing them over the fence. Why is that only a springtime thing? What happens in winter well? What happens in winter is they get covered in the snow and then when the snow melts like all the poops appear like Ah that’s kind of what’s been happening here in New York, you’re like. Damn Somebody had a busy winter and then you like say it to the dog and you’re like yeah. I was walking.

I Went On A Little Walk Earlier On.

This is like a weird thing that people who love dogs, but don’t have a dog do so whenever someone that’s coming towards me on the street is walking a dog on a leash. I won’t make eye contact at all with the other person because this is my 15 seconds of dog attention for like potentially for the day. You know if I have a bad walk and I don’t pick up many dogs. So I just but I wonder what they must think of me because I’m just this psychopath walking past staring at their dog like longingly staring at their dog because I love dogs because they’re awesome and um yeah yeah I just wonder I wonder.

If It Weighs People Out It Actually Makes

me feel really good to hear that you do exactly what I do. I could not care less about the owner like exactly like I I hoard as much dog time as possible like. I almost think like you know like when I was in New York City more like there’d be dog walkers and then you’d be like jackpot. You know. I like to cross the street just to meet a dog and then like I’m like what would be like the next level thing that like the dog just couldn’t.

I Think If You Just Laid Down

that would be the thing the dog like could not avoid at that point it’s like the dog is gonna jump on you so the humans like the humans just there to facilitate you looking at a dog basically yeah and and when I walk actually it’s like my my boyfriend’s mom’s dog but I feel like we’re like close like I was there the day she came home. So I feel like I don’t know we’re like we’re close buds if when people just go up to muffin. I don’t take it as a personal offense. I’m just like no she’s super effing cute like of course muffin muffins. She likes to come in during my podcast recordings and then she’ll like she’ll sort of like put her paws up on me and like look but then sometimes while doing that she’ll.

Kick Out My Internet Cord Fantastic

which is less cute when you have like a really high profile guest. I’m like Oh bleep and then you got to plug it back in Can I curse. I’ve been cursing curse away curse away. I want to talk about all of the common mistakes that women make when they’re growing up and how to deal with them do you think you are you qualified for this I’m very qualified. I have made almost all of the mistakes so yeah.

I Think I Think Im Definitely Qualified To

talk about mistakes in my 20 something odd years of life. No no it’s like you don’t really know until you become 37. now I can confidently confidently look back and be like Oh, Yeah like if I had a younger like sister or niece, or something like just a girl in her like late. Teens early 20s I’d be like sit down all right take out a notebook all right so where do you want to start what’s what’s first Oh There’s so much and and that’s the thing is to start with it’s. Maybe it’s part of the I don’t know if it’s like this in the Uk, but it’s definitely part of American culture to like fully blame women or fully blame men It seems like the easy cop-out thing that you see folks doing is like like women love to say Oh.

All Men Are Stupid Or Just

totally group overly grouping people like overly grouping the sexes like Oh men are dumb all men do this and then it’s easy for guys who aren’t Having luck to be like women are crazy there’s you know there’s no chance. You know it’s too much it’s too difficult and that’s that’s what it is is like you have to keep going out there despite getting hurt it’s like yeah that’s that’s also life you know I think it’s just in the last couple decades. We’ve like glamorized as a culture like like the lack of hard work and I think that kind of bleeds over to relationships, our jobs, our goals like how we live our lives it’s like. I think we need to just make in general hard work like cool again and I’ve had like versions of this conversation with so many. people, but when it comes to relationships, I yeah I can only observe like what I’ve seen like what messages I’ve absorbed as a woman and usually like a lot of young women will go for their sources of advice or information like magazines or like for me.

I Know Like Magazines Were Big

growing up or like like now It’s kind of all of this is mixed online, so it’s like our magazines our news. Our apps is all kind of in this online world and that’s where we go for advice because like we don’t talk to our parents. Our parents aren’t cool maybe we don’t have older siblings like or maybe our parents aren’t like my parents weren’t in a healthy relationship They stayed together but they didn’t like they weren’t like from what I could observe they didn’t like each other. They weren’t kind to each. Other and on one side, it was great because I developed my sense of humor from their kind of like sarcastic constant back look constantly roasting and undercutting each other and so that was good for like developing my sense of humor, but for developing my sense of like, What should I look for in a partner, it was bleep and you know a lot of times like like as women yeah, We’ll seek out like magazines or advice from now.

Its Like Apps And All These

articles and um that is so not the place to go because there’s so much bad advice in these like consumerist spaces and I think so much of that is online and it just seems so easy to go for everything online. Because that’s like our our whole world is just in our pocket and we’re looking we’re checking it 50 times a. day and that was like a big thing. I learned from you actually Chris the last time we did a show together. I’ve started charging my phone outside the room.

Im Like Good Night Phone And Then

I go into my room and I shut the door and I kind of feel like free. I’m like free at last. Doesn’t know that I’m in here yeah They can’t get me while the phone’s outside that’s such an interesting point about girls and role models because we hear a lot about guys. Don’t have the role models that they need at the moment the Jordan Peterson movement was this kind of um father to a million men so to speak We don’t actually hear that about girls, but you’re saying that young girls are also a little bit or can be a bit directionless without role models too it’s so it’s. just in our nature to be and I don’t want to speak for all women, but like I think a lot of women have this people-pleasing gene.

I Think Its What Makes Us Good Friends,

good mothers, good listeners, good nurturers. It’s like your strengths and your weaknesses are always kind of together right and we could go off on like what they are for men too but there’s something kind of uniquely female about people pleasing and like we’re perceptive. We can figure out what people want and give it to them without even having them to act like without their asking and I think women all like well and I can definitely speak for myself like. I would expect that in my relationships and that’s that’s what’s coming up for me a lot in my current relationship because we’ve been together six years and I still struggle with. Like well, I can read his mind.

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I Think Like Why Cant He Read

mine or like when and that covers everything from like what I want to eat to sexually. You know what I mean and I go well. I figured your bleep out like you know not to get too graphic but I’m pretty good you know yeah it’s so that’s. I I think that you’re right the agreeableness that girls have is so pervasive like it’s crazy when I think to some the levels of disagreeableness that my most disagreeable girl friends are like in fact. I would put it out there that Michaela Peterson is the most disagreeable girl that I’ve ever met in my life and I yeah she was on my podcast too and I I was I was amazed.

I Was Like Of Course, Youre

Jordan Peterson‘s daughter like look at you like. You’re just like you’re such a bad bleep and you’re like just don’t apologize I don’t know why I guess because my mom was very much. I think it’s helpful to look at your mom because you’re you’re gonna absorb. I think more from your mother than you do from your father. It’s interesting like if I had a really great father that was like talking to me all the time and giving a bleep about my feelings.

I Think That Would Have Manifested

in the way of like maybe I would have had a better picker for in terms of guys and I think that’s how that bleep with me but my mom is my example like I was you’re almost like it’s a default like it’s your template for your behaviors. I think and I never saw my mom like really stand up for herself like my my. Dad didn’t like beat my mom, but like he definitely was like not super nice to her and the way he would talk to her and um just made her feel bad a lot from what I could pick up on and like they always fought about money and my dad would say stuff to my thanks to my mom like Oh like the kids are messy it’s all your fault because you didn’t teach them to do chores like he was so and he these are boomers right and so you gotta if I’m gonna throw them a bone like they’re kind of imprinted with this thinking of like Oh like my dad very much thought he could he handled the outside work and outside the house was for men and inside work. The kids happened to.

Summary

Chrissy may welcome to the show thanks for having me have you managed to get dog Poo off your shoe . It’s starting to be springtime here in New York and part of that means going around the yard and picking up poops and throwing them over the fence.& Why is that only a springtime thing? What happens in winter is they get covered in the snow and then when the snow melts like all the poops appear like that’s kind of what’s been happening here in NYC, you’re like. I could not care less about the owner like I I hoard as much dog time as possible like.& I like to cross the street just to meet a dog and then like I’m like what would be like the next level thing that like the dog just couped up. I almost think like you know like when I was in NYC more like there’d be dog walkers and then you’d be like jackpot.& If it weighs people out it actually makes me feel really good…. Click here to read more and watch the full video