Are Women Tricked Into Believing Theyre Failures

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Video Creator’s Channel Russell Brand

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Its Good To Me That Its Interesting

to me because I don’t know much experience in it that your journey doesn’t begin with harmful self-harming or lovers drinking so much or my partners beating me up you know like it’s not like yeah It’s it’s not cataclysmic no. It certainly sounds very very painful and you know and I’m not trying to diminish it but what I’m saying is it’s like it’s an interesting entry point persist. It seems that there’s not a requirement for you to be sort of like criminalized or hospitalized that’s a very good point and it’s a very interesting one and I think the reason that I wrote about my experiences actually is because they aren’t exceptional. Therefore there’s an entry point level for people who might be dealing with with the same kind of failure. It It doesn’t get a lot of airplay the stuff that I went through partly because it’s a scene as a woman’s issue and and like what what you seen as a woman’s issue fertility, so I wrote a whole chapter in the book called Failing at Babies.

The Reason I Wrote That Is Because

when I was going through UK. There was nothing there was no literature. There was some hysterical internet forums that can tell you anything you want them to say, but there was no book that I could look at that would tell me exactly what I was going to go through and what I might experience there was shelf upon shelf of mother and baby books. Once I got into the infertility treatment world I began to understand that my experience was going to be. I was going to be treated by 98% men, Hmm and.

They Because They Are Men Didnt

have any experience of what I was going through so a miscarriage would be would be It would be compared to experiencing a heavy period by a man and I’m like you, Don’t know what a heavy period is and you definitely never experienced a miscarriage so where you’re getting this language from you. Don’t you physically don’t understand so someone must have told you that or you read it in a medical textbook, but there’s no reality if you’ve actually been through it that’s not the reality it’s an incredibly traumatic thing. A lot of the language around fertility medicine was the language of failure. It was designed to make me feel like a failure as a woman, so I was told that my womb was inhospitable because it’s a certain shape. My friend was told that she had an incompetent cervix I.

Was Told Repeatedly That I Was Fae

to respond to the drugs and actually it was my friend Fran, who said maybe you’re not failing to respond to the drugs. Maybe the drugs are failing you and it was a really momentous shift in my thinking because I’d be made to feel so diminished by all of this and it was horrible and lonely and isolating and I wanted someone to have told me that and so that’s why I wanted to write about it. Why do you think that language is so condemned Natori and cold and what do you think this says about patriarchy well. I think it says it’s deeply deeply embedded and the reason I talk about it. So much is that I want to excavate our shame and hold it up to the light so that we’re no longer ashamed of it we’ve been made.

  • experiences
  • experiencing
  • suffering
  • infertility
  • harming
  • wrote experiences actually aren exceptional
  • failure woman told womb inhospitable
  • begin harmful self harming
  • chapter book called failing babies
  • self harming lovers drinking partners

To Feel Like Failures As Women Because

we’re not fulfilling biological imperative. It suits the patriarchy for us to feel like that. It suits the patriarchy to keep us as broodmares just popping out their children while they rule the world and that kind of language has meant that quote-unquote women’s conditions have been marginalized in all medical terminology. So it’s only relatively recently that we’ve started speaking openly about endometriosis and it’s it’s a condition where you get extremely heavy and painful periods or polycystic ovaries like I just hadn’t I hadn’t got a clue and I was a woman and I I can say you know I can say I yeah it’s just if you hear anger in my voice. It’s Because I’ve been really hurt by it and I’ve recently had another miscarriage and it was and is really horrendous and I really feel for women who were kind of made to feel that they have to go through it on their own at home that’s the medical device before 12 weeks.

You Kind Of Just Left Your Own Devices

bleeding at home in terrible pain and this is something that I feel like in any other medical condition. You’d be in hospital a doctor would be checking up on you yes it does reveal some interesting unconscious assumptions and dynamics between the Sexy’s. I’ve wondered before if agriculture began with the idea that females were to be regarded as a kind of utility. You know and that that idea of command over nature and dominion over nature began not with non–human species, but within humanity itself. It’s very interesting.

The Amount Of Suffering That That

takes place within that and also feels to me is like an indication of the absence of necessary connection around biological human experience. I mean to say that this kind of outsourcing and institutionalization of obviously there are reasons to our institutionalized health. There are financial reasons progressive reasons, but it seems that we have become more machine like we’re becoming more machine like an extra. There’s an extraction of the necessary connection in from what you said that like that language sounded like it lacked humanity and when my wife was pregnant. She went in the hospital and I remember because of Laura sort of learning about it and teaching me about it.

How Much The Process Of Medicalizing

was a kind of system of unconscious domination it was really fascinating to watch like that if you medicalised something that then you’re dominating. It entirely it’s interesting to see how frequently and ubiquitously the the controlling of the feminine principle, the creative principle or femaleness or whatever you wanna call It is built into social systems definitely and built into language from the off any kind of language not just medical language, So that idea that Simone de Beauvoir Explorer was about the feminine always being the object rather subject of the sentence. So much of it is built into the prison of our language and yet languages all we have to connect on a vocal basis, so so we’re sort of it’s. It’s a difficult business being human, but actually the original thing that you asked me was about my failure being a certain kind of a do not necessarily a kind of cataclysmic omission the end of the road with drug or alcohol abuse and I would like to say that. I know that I speak from a position of extraordinary privilege in the I am white middle class.

I Own A Laptop Im In

the top naught point 5 percent of the global population for those reasons and I cannot hope to speak to the experience of a person of color. Someone who’s homeless something someone who’s living with a chronic illness and NOrd. I seek to speak to that because it would be immensely patronizing and I’m very aware that some failures are more easily assimilated than others and I’m not here saying I want you to fail better and if you’re not feeling better, then you’re failing at failing. I’m not saying that at all I’m saying that there will probably be a necessary grieving process to any failure that you face and that’s a necessary thing to go through you have to go through grief not over. it but once that period has come to its natural conclusion.

I Personally Choose To Believe That Failure

has taught me something and I might not always understand what it’s taught me, but there will eventually be a lesson in there somewhere and that’s personally how I choose to live. It seems a good method thanks for watching this podcast and going all the way to the end of it was usually kind of to click the bell when I’ll be there. They’re there and they’re subscribing so that we can infiltrate your serenity and peace of mind with jangling bells and parties.

Summary

It’s good to me that it’s interesting to me because I don’t know much experience in it that your journey doesn’t begin with harmful self-harming or lovers drinking so much or my partners beating me up you know like it’s not like yeah It’s not cataclysmic no.& It certainly sounds very very painful and you know and I’m not trying to diminish it but what I’m saying is it’s an interesting entry point persist. It doesn’t get a lot of airplay the stuff that I went through partly because it’s a scene as a woman’s issue, so I wrote a whole chapter in the book called Failing at Babies.& The reason I wrote that is because when I was going through UK.& There was nothing there was no literature. There was some hysterical internet forums that can tell you anything you want them to say, but there was some hysteria internet forums . There was no book that I could look at that would tell me exactly what I…. Click here to read more and watch the full video