Video Creator’s Channel Chris Williamson
You Really Are Your Only Comparison Group, Especially
as you get older Because your life is so idiosyncratic and peculiar that any compare I mean look You have to care what other people think it’s stupid to think otherwise because you have to be social and you have to be aware of what other people are doing and all of that so it’s. This is psychopathic individual individuality but it is genuinely true that no one has your set of opportunities and limitations and so the the comparison just isn’t real it can’t be sufficiently multi-dimensional you know because maybe you see someone who’s re i’ve dealt with I’ve I’ve met many people who are very very rich and you can look at their lives and they have these huge houses and material plenty but J and they’re shielded from many catastrophes that would hit someone without those resources harder. Their lives are still full of exactly the same troubles that characterize human life in general and so you you compare yourself on one dimension you don’t see well. The person’s worked 80 hours a week for 40 years, and it’s blown all his relationships out of the water. It’s like yes he’s rich but he’s also old now you know he’s 60 and one of the best predictors of wealth is age.
You Know Really Do You Want To Be
young and poor or old and rich. It’s like I’d pick young and poor because you can’t buy youth and so and that’s something that’s worth considering. But you don’t know what burdens the people you’re jealous of are carrying so leave it be it’s not it’s not helpful to you to to to be envious. I often tell people that we don’t know the price that you need. to pay to be the people that you admire so we look at Elon, Musk or Conor, McGregor or Kim Kardashian and we want the success that they have within a very narrowly defined domain of competence.
Tiger Woods Fantastic Example, The Greatest Golfer Ever,
but his dad mistreated him so much as a kid that they had a safe word. They had a safe word like you do during rough sex that Tiger could tell him if he’d had enough and it was called the e-word. It was enough and Tiger never once said it his dad would racially abuse him while he was on the golf course telling him that these white people are never going to let you on here. But then when we look at Tiger’s golf game only then can we even begin to see what kind of looks a bit like child abuse, but only when he’s able to perform in that way, but the question is would you pay that price to be Tiger Woods would you have so little self belief outside of the golf game that you have the most public marriage failure that anyone’s ever seen. He’s on anti–psychotic drugs and being pulled over by police at the side of the road because he’s fallen asleep at the wheel.
Hes Spent Half A Decade Off The Game
because he’s been injured because of how hard he’s pushed himself. Really want that because that’s the price you have to pay to be Tiger Woods, You can’t just get the golf capacity without having everything that comes with it. This isn’t pick and choose like clothes off a rail. This is a wholesale sale. You pick everything warts and all you need to pick their sleep patterns their self-body image all of the genetics.
- comparison just isn real sufficiently
- life idiosyncratic peculiar compare mean
- people doing psychopathic
- comparison group especially older life
- doing psychopathic individual
Theyve Got The Way That Their Brain
feels when they go to bed at night a lot of people. I think if they were able to see the full package. They wouldn’t pay that price yeah and and that could well be the right decision no who who knows what price you pay for hyper specialization. You know and I learned that looking at you know power mad C-suite types well first of all they’re generally not power mad because power is actually an unbelievably unstable. establishing authority you you get you get slaughtered if you’re not reciprocal in most reasonably functioning organizations and if you’re in an organization that only rewards the exercise of power.
The Probability That That Organization Is Going To
fail in totality is extraordinarily high because it’s a tyrannical organization it’ll lose touch with its customers, so the c suite types um they’re they’re working non–stop corporate lawyers in New York. You know they make 700 an hour, but they work all the time all the time and there are people who are suited for that. But it isn’t obvious that that’s for everyone or that it should be or that it’s even desirable. Now it’s a temperamental issue to a large degree. You know many of those people are hyper conscientious and so if they they’ll work whatever you put them what they would do is work that’s who they.
Its Biological As Well Its You Know Its
not all biological because traits are affected by learning and by environment in complex ways. But a huge chunk of it is that you’re born like that and that has advantages and disadvantages. So conscientiousness is a good example um it’s a good predictor of long-term life success but people are conscientious tend to tear themselves apart if they become unemployed. For example, you know sometimes you get laid off you worked hard, but you get laid off well.
People Who Are Conscientious Will Tear
themselves into pieces with guilt in that situation because they tend to attribute so much responsibility to themselves and so there’s a price to be paid for conscientiousness. It it opens you up to a certain set of vulnerabilities so you know and you might be somewhat unbearable to your family too because all you ever do. work, you know you think well you you want to be a good? You want your father maybe your husband perhaps your wife to be a good provider, but you want them to do that at the expense of everything else Generally no thank you very much for tuning in if you enjoyed that then press here for the full unedited episode and don’t forget to subscribe makes me very happy peace you.
You really are your only comparison group, especially as you get older . Your life is so idiosyncratic and peculiar that any compare I mean look You have to care what other people think it’s stupid to think otherwise . No one has your set of opportunities and limitations and so the comparison just isn’t real it can’t be sufficiently multi-dimensional you know because maybe you see someone who’s re i’ve dealt with I’ve I’ve met many people who are very very rich and you can look at their lives and they have these huge houses and material plenty but J and they’re shielded from many catastrophes that would hit someone without those resources harder . Their lives are still full of exactly the same troubles that characterize human life in general and so you you compare yourself on one dimension you don’t see well . Tiger Woods fantastic example, the greatest golfer ever, but his dad mistreated him so much as a kid that they had a safe word.& Tiger Woods was the greatest Golfer ever…. Click here to read more and watch the full video