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joker and I did not know what the word locus means we’re going to be talking about locust tonight um and I did not know what that word meant. When I first found this article. Locus is another word for a place a source and we’re going to talk about where’s the source of control in your life coming from and when it’s not in your control. For example, in the woman that you might date or women that you have dated in the past when their source of quote power or magic or whatever is and I don’t mean literal magic but but what I mean is like um when they say oh the magic’s leaving this relationship or I’m not getting the tingles and the feels anymore. It’s because you the external source of control is not providing it to her.

She Doesnt Have Her Own Source Of

happiness. I know it sounds a little confusing once we get reading um. I think you’ll understand this a little bit more but what I wanted to talk to you guys about first is what does it mean having an internal source of control in your life and happiness in your life or having an external um source of of of control and happiness and and I just shaved my head is all dry, so I’m itchy so forgive me for rubbing my face here um but what that means basically is when we talk about stoicism when we talk about being happy in your own skin. When we talk about I’m okay with myself. You’re in control of your life.

Youre In Control Of Your Own Happiness, And

then when when it’s external when you rely on others to provide that kind. of source of control or source of happiness for your life that’s when you’re not in a happy place and that’s where you say ah But I want a girlfriend so bad. It’s because it’s external that’s your source of happiness is would be her or I need a really good job. Man I want to have lots of money and which is a good thing. I’m not poo pooing it but I am saying that you can’t always control that so what if you do have that great job and all of a sudden you lose that job do you lose who you are as a person do you lose your happiness or do you say hey you know what I’m a smart guy.

Im Good Ill Recover.

I’ll find something better let me just get back to it and that has a lot to do with some people. Will say like it’s in your your inner fire your inner drive for for um leading your life forward so I’m gonna give you a real life example about what’s even recently not only a long time ago, but what’s what’s recently happened to me and to show you that even you know at 40 something years old as a 47-year-old guy that even now you’re going to always have people that are going to try to take that control away from you. They’re going to try to drag you into their world or drag you down and what it does is it makes you feel like you don’t belong that you’re not good at it just being by yourself. So here’s my example very quickly.

The First One Its When I Was

in in high school. I was in marching Band I also was on the chess. Club I also did um six sports. I had six um varsity and JV letters which for you overseas means that I participated in a sport. I got a leather jacket.

I Put The High School Emblem On It

and you get a pin for every sport that you participated in well. So I was in like I was in a nerdy chess club and I was in marching band. it which is music and kind of smart person stuff smart person stuff um it’s kind of looked at as nerdy as well, but then I was also in a lot of sports well. I didn’t fit into any category and so people really had a hard time kind of deciding how they should treat me should they treat me as a nerd should they it’s not about just treating me as me and and I think often because. I was happy doing all of it and I think oftentimes because of stress or because of not belonging or not having your own source of power and and when I say that I mean your your own control over your own life, your own feeling that life is in your own hands.

Im Trying To Use Words From This

article because that way when I read it it’ll kind of make sense. Then a lot of times. People try to fit in and that’s where where you change who you are because of an outside source of happiness or what you think is going to be the outside source of happiness hope that makes sense so then now as an adult you know I I’m still kind of the same guy. I do my own thing. I had some rocky roads where I did try to fit in because I didn’t like feeling on the outside on the outside of what was popular what my friends were doing or I felt like the lone guy.

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I Know A Lot Of You, Especially

younger guys can feel like Oh man. They’re all over there having fun and laughing it up and having a good time and I’m over here by myself, but as long as you’re over by yourself being your authentic self and true to yourself and your source of happiness comes from within you can sit back and watch them all interacting with each other and having fun and you can analyze it and you can kind of see that the dynamics between the people and then you go about your day. There’s no sense of Oh. I’m missing out. I’m not part of that.

Group I Dont Have People Laughing And

looking at me and patting me on the back and telling me. I’m smart or funny because that’s that happiness is coming from without from outside of you okay so as an adult here recently um I’ve there’s been a couple other channels that have taken some of my older videos and they’ve critiqued me my thoughts which is always a good thing. They’ve con critiqued my um my results or what I think is my take away from it also always good thing I like being I like making people think about things in the world and then they also personally attacked me on my voice. I’ve been attacked on my height. I’ve been attacked on my weight.

Ive Been Attacked On Lots Of

different things. My background here because I just do it in a store or in a an office. space until my bus is done and and you know what hey if my if if my feelings or my source of happiness came from outside well that would hurt my feelings, But when you’re in a good place it doesn’t bother you okay um same thing goes when so here’s what’s happened so basically a lot of the commentators that made comments about me personally they said I was a guy going my own way m g t o w They said I belong to that group and these were mostly pickup guys that were talking about like oh if you’re not dating if you’re not out there scoring all the time you’re a loser and so they said well. He’s a guy going his own way and then the funny thing is that the guys in the going their own way forum or web page or whatever they. Don’t like me because they say well.

Hes A Simp Because He Asks

users to if they comment and if a woman post something to comment on their thoughts and ideas not the fact that they’re a woman because a woman can have thoughts and ideas that are good. We don’t want to punish women that have good ideas or are like I hear you. I agree with you. I’m sorry you guys go through this that to me is not an enemy that is that is a an ally Okay. Some of you may disagree, but that’s fine so the guys go in their own way.

They Call Me A Sim And Then

sims say well. He’s not one of us because he makes fun of all of us for giving money to only fans and so guess what there’s no community that I belong in as a matter. Of fact, if you look at the tags on on my videos, There’s nothing about any three of those subjects it’s men’s health men,’s fitness divorce marriage dating that kind of stuff. It’s all kind of just men’s generic stuff because I don’t want to fit in any group because that means I’d have to change something about me and I want you young guys to understand that it’s it’s. This is like a super power.

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You Know Guys That Are Out There Dating

and they say oh man. I said the right thing and I leaned against the bar and I played it cool and before you know it she’s in bed with me. It feels like a superpower. I get that but what happens if maybe she does she calls you ugly or unattractive or a loser or whatever do you feel let down a little bit maybe. No maybe not, but as long as you’re happy within nothing will bother you nothing will bother you or things will concern you but you’ll get over them very quickly you kind of bounce back to your normal place okay so keep that in mind that first that once you and this is going to talk about this a little bit once you find that your source of happiness and control in your life is internal you can work through any problem that comes up against you when it’s external that’s when you’re gonna find that you feel left out you feel lonely you feel that nobody likes you.

You Feel That You Dont Have

enough friends. You feel that you don’t belong because when you belong you get other people saying I like you or I like to spend time with you or I like to hang around with. You that’s outside validation that’s outside that’s external things making you feel good once you have once once you’re not worried about that anymore guess what you don’t care you’re happy by yourself all the time and if somebody says they don’t like you you go okay whatever you don’t have to hang out with me okay, so let’s talk about this and how it relates to relationships so This is from psychology today. A lot of their their articles are hit and miss um, but I think he has a point here .

I Know Some Of You Guys

have made fun of women on the forums that talk about their astrology symbol and mercury rising and are you a libra and what this means and it means nothing but those are external things that that makes them feel like they have control over something or what about women. That I did a story on this on a woman that ended herself because she was on social media and she felt she didn’t get enough likes on a few photos and people weren’t being complimentary enough. She took herself out it’s because that validation wasn’t.

Summary

Locus is another word for a place a source and we’re going to talk about where’s the source of control in your life coming from and when it’s not in your control . For example, in the woman that you might date or women that you have dated in the past when their source of quote power or magic is not providing it to her.& She doesn’t have her own source of happiness.& I know it sounds a little confusing once we get reading, but I think you’ll understand this a little bit more but what I wanted to talk to you guys about first is what does it mean having an internal . source of . control in . your life and happiness in your . life or having an external source of of of control and happiness for your life that’s when you’re not in a happy place. That’s where you say ah But I want a girlfriend so bad.& It’s because it’s external that’s your source of Happiness is would be her or I need a really good job….. Click here to read more and watch the full video